Allah has never asked us to suppress our emotions, to hide our tears, or to pretend we don’t feel pain when practicing sabr. Patience doesn’t mean becoming numb or detached from the world around us. Rather, it’s about maintaining grace in the face of hardship. We can cry, we can pray for ease, and we can feel every bit of the pain we’re going through. But we should avoid cursing our difficulties. Instead, we should be grateful, recognizing that things could have been much worse. We should pray more, ask for strength and ease, and bear the situation with dignity. Being strong doesn’t mean not feeling—it means holding your head high, staying hopeful, and trusting in the wisdom of Allah.

The reason I’m writing today’s blog is to offer some perspective, especially for those of you who might see me as someone who has it all figured out—someone who knows how to deal with life’s challenges because I write about them and share my thoughts with others. It’s easy to assume that if I’m giving advice, my own life must be perfectly sorted. But the truth is, even with knowledge, even with faith, and even with strength, pain is still a part of the human experience.

No matter how much you know, no matter how strong your faith is, you cannot completely escape suffering. You might suffer less, but as a human being, you have emotions. You have your own capacity to handle certain things, and there will be times when you feel overwhelmed. It’s perfectly normal to have days when you slip, when the ache in your heart feels unbearable, when you’re searching for new ways to cope, or when you’re trying to make sense of the wisdom you already possess. Some days, you might feel low, and that’s okay.

You don’t need to feel guilty for not being invincible. You don’t need to force yourself to be something you’re not. Allow yourself those low days, but make sure you rise again the next day with renewed hope. The key is not to give up, not to quit, and not to harm yourself or those around you.

Sabr isn’t about avoiding pain; it’s about enduring it with grace. It’s about acknowledging that life is challenging, but trusting that every trial is a step toward something better. And through it all, we remain hopeful, knowing that our strength lies in our resilience.