Love…..Love is not a stage where you have to reach… it’s a process….which continues forever and ever! You may fall in love with someone in a day or a month or a year, but to stay in love with them, you have to fall in love with them every day, every hour, every minute, every second, every moment!!! Love itself is not a complete thing, coz its nature is giving… It fills the voids in us…! You can’t be a giver and a complete package simultaneously because you are always giving part of yourself to someone or something…. & it never gets empty, too, as it is redeemable… It’s not always necessary that you have to learn from a different relationship and apply what you’ve learned from it in another one. You can always be learning from the same relationship that you are in your present. Apply the learnings to the same relationship to make it better. It is impossible to know someone in a day or a month, or a year. In fact, a lifetime is not enough to really know a person! Because feelings, people, situations, time, fortune, nothing is stable. They all keep changing; that’s their nature! You can’t really do anything about it.

       You can’t expect someone to tell it all when you have just entered a chapter and expecting them to unfold the whole book in front of you suddenly. It’s not possible. It takes time. It takes trust, comfort, affection, maturity, and patience to do it. When you really love someone, it is not enough that you have accepted their past; you have to keep accepting them each passing day! You will always have something new to know, to watch, to hear about them because all of us keep evolving in different ways with time. You have to accept and love their flaws more each passing day! Accepting and loving their flaws more each day will keep you going. Otherwise, your feelings for them will start fading with time. We should never try to show the level of understanding which we don’t have, the level of patience which does not exist, the level of interest which is not there yet. It can only make things worst in the long run. Because in such cases, after a point, you will get tired of holding the mask, showing what you don’t have. So, stay real first! Let them accept you the way you are. Let them love you the way you are. If you keep it real between you two, you don’t have to worry about the process then, coz both of you already know how much you have to offer. You don’t have to do the things extra-ordinarily; you have to keep doing the little things you would do! And show your love towards each other.

         It is quite possible that the one who you think you know completely actually surprises you with each coming day. Not necessarily with their talents, but their thinking, actions, or behavior. It happens because no one can really show all their sides even if they want to. Part of them will always remain unknown to others and sometimes even to themselves! We can surely gaze at the possibilities of how that person will react to a particular situation. Still, we can’t be 100% sure of it! We all know that change is the only constant! Sometimes, the people themselves are not aware of what they truly are or what their sides are? Coz maybe they never got into such situations where their personality will come out, and they’ll find who they truly are! You will discover who they are with passing time; while you are living the process of love. Don’t judge based on what you’ve seen, be patient, and keep observing! We can’t blame them for everything all the time. Keep patience in your relationship; try to know them more each day. Enjoy the ever-changing process of growth and learning in love. Trusting your journey is important! Because love is not a stage where you reach; it is a process!

What this blog concludes: 

  1. You can’t just fall in love, and you are done; you need to uphold what you have started.
  2. Feelings may fade, the shine may get dim, but love always stays.
  3. Blaming does not bring any good. Understanding and learning do!
  4. Always keep room for the unexpected.
  5. Change is the only constant, don’t stay there, keep growing.
  6. Stay real, accept the reality.
  7. A lifetime is not enough to really know and love someone.
  8. Try to make yourself comfortable with the change; it will help you in the longer run.
  9. Don’t mistake love with a stage; it’s a life-long process.
  10.  If you are truly in love, you will keep patience.