Acceptance is not always compromising!!!! The more you accept, the more you love! Because you can accept the fact that you are weak and still decide to get stronger at the same time and not settling into it. Loving something or someone is not enough. You have to put your faith, your trust, your belief, your patience into it! Putting faith means living and breathing that someone or something! Putting your belief means knowing and working on it. Putting your patience means not being hopeless or losing your mind when you struggle when things go different than what you expected. In a true sense, love should always be unconditional. Here, I might have sounded a little impractical and far from reality to most of you! N that’s true because we all can only wish to find such love, as we are not ready to love someone this way, unconditionally! So how can we expect others to do it? It’s human psychology that when you don’t find yourself capable of something, you think most people cannot do it too. When you don’t put your efforts into something, you start taking that thing like a fantasy because it’s no more natural to you; it’s no more real. The same goes for this unconditional love. When you are not ready to love someone unconditionally, you find it difficult to believe and accept that there can be people capable of doing it. So, when I speak about it, no doubt that it starts feeling unreal to you! So those, who found this unconditional love thing impractical, take a look inside and check what’s wrong? Love is when you Love the other person even when they fail to love you the same way!  

                    In a relationship, if there’s only one person who is acceptive about the other one and not both of them towards each other, such kind of relationship can’t sustain for long! As only one person is holding the rope. Indeed, he/she will get tired after a while. Do you know how they check the strength of a rope? By pulling it tight from both ends. The same goes with relationships; when both of you hold it tight from your end, the strength of the relationship can be seen. Understanding what the other person has been through in their life is the first step towards acceptance. It helps us to accept their nature, behavior, reactions, thought process, lifestyle, etc. We should not get confused about the line between accepting things and ignoring things. You can always accept the things that don’t hurt others or anyone’s sentiments, like religious beliefs. As these are their own, it gives strength to them. Suppose you don’t believe in their religious beliefs. In that case, you can still accept it and let them believe in it, as it’s not hurting anyone! Or other harmless habits like clumsiness, silliness, etc. While ignoring the red flags like abusing, negligence over serious matters, cheating, violence, physical abuse, putting others down, and many other bad habits is a total NO-NO. You are not supposed to accept such things from anyone in a relationship or the outside world. 

                    There is always a limit to everything, so to the acceptance. N this line of limit varies from person to person, relationship to relationship. As every person is different, their power of tolerating things is different. These limits can be set by an individual or with mutual understanding in a relationship. The line of acceptance in a relationship can also depend upon how much that person loves the other person. Here, the opinions of a few won’t matter as everyone’s experience differs in this case! Most of the time, we really can’t define these limits. To make a relationship work, we have to keep these limits a little flexible. But of course, if one’s thoughts and rules are more important, these set limits are more rigid! N honestly speaking, we really can’t do much about it, as it happens because of what one has been through or learned from one’s life! Don’t try to show the level of acceptance which you don’t possess within yourself! Better be truthful about your level of acceptance about someone or something. If it’s significantly less, you can work on trying to increase it with time; but there’s no point in lying about it. Also, if you know deep inside that you can’t hold on to something for a long, don’t accept it. Stay honest about it to the other person. Lying, hiding, pretending only brings chaos and hurt! So be acceptive but only with your heart!  

 

What this blog concludes:

  1. The more you accept, the more you love! Acceptance is not always compromising.
  2. Love unconditionally, focus on your offerings to them.
  3. Don’t get confused between the line of acceptance and ignorance.
  4. Ready yourself to offer the things that you wish to receive from others.
  5. In order to make any relationship successful, you have to keep your limit lines a little flexible for each other.
  6. Understanding leads us to acceptance.
  7. Don’t accept the things which can’t hold up on for long.
  8. Acceptance is the key, but not when it is one-sided.
  9. Don’t doubt the reality which you are incapable of.
  10. Don’t doubt the reality, which you are incapable of.