Choosing Love
Many of us have been brave souls when facing life, facing pain, facing situations, and facing hardships, but what, when it comes to choosing love in our lives?? Here, we have to be braver!! We choose that life for us. We choose that love for us! Choosing love is very important in anyone’s life, but staying in that love is the most courageous thing one can do. We worry a lot at the time of choosing that love for ourselves. But once we start getting the continuous feed of it, we kind of start feeling that there’s no need to do a lot now! We are done with the important part; there’s no need to worry here onwards. Which gradually decreases the spark which we experienced at the beginning of the relationship. N all this happens because we give a lot more importance to choosing than maintaining it.
Materialistic things are something that we can keep choosing and replacing with the new and updated ones each time we fail to keep the maintenance. But when it comes to people or relations, you can’t apply the same logic and change it each time you fail to maintain it. You have to keep and take care of the people, the relations that matter to you. Maintaining a relationship brings many small and big actions that you have to take for your loved one—giving them a sense of emotional security, a sense of belonging, respecting and accepting their individuality, being honest with them about things—asking for their opinions, keeping your words, respecting them, apologizing to them if you mistake, trying to help them with their stuff, appreciating them for the good things they do, and a lot more. If you are in it for a reason of true love, you will go all the way. N If you can’t go all the way, don’t even start.
Many times we can’t choose love; love chooses us, it comes to us, now it’s up to us if we want to accept or welcome that love in our life. If we’re going to Tag those relations accordingly. Relationships happen because of the attraction that we feel towards someone emotionally, physically, or the comfort we experience with someone. It can be a mix of both too. Like you feel attracted to a person, you want to be with them, feel good around them, feel very comfortable with them, and they feel like home. Then we define how important we want to make that person in our life! N if we wish to commit to them, sacrifice comes into the picture. You have to let go of certain people in your life, changing the directions of your life so that you accommodate the other person.
Love never stays in its original form. It evolves into compassion, care, commitment, and many times habit. A lot of times happens that you wake up and feel like why are you into this relation? But then, what stops you?? The pain of detachment, because that strong amalgamation is there which is way stronger than the attachment part, than the love part maybe. You might experience a situation where you are in love with another person, and you are still not being able to give up on the relationship you had with someone else! It happens because the pain of tearing from this person holds you back! Then you have to decide what is more important to you, whether you want to go ahead with this person or stay back with that person! Here, love takes a back seat where the other factors come in front, like commitment, care, compassion, and other stuff.
It’s tough to be with someone who is a captivating personality! To be with someone who gets everyone’s attention, everyone wants to be with! But you have to believe in the magic that exists only between you two. You have to put your faith in what you see in their eyes for you, despite the attention they get from everyone else. You need to know that your attention and love are something that they need to have in their life. You have to be more confident about the fact that no matter how many people love them, no one can love them the way you do!! Your love and care are pure for them. You have to understand that You can’t live with a fear of losing them constantly in your mind; it’s just not going to work for you. Sometimes it gives room for doubts to live between you, which should not be the case.
You can’t live with a feeling of insecurity all your life!! You surely have to fight for your love, but you also need to know that you don’t have to take care of your insecurities all alone! It will help if you tell them about all the thoughts that cross your mind. Peace is more important than love than happiness and than anything else. You just can’t let your insecurities ruin the peace that you should have in your life. The only thing that you should be worried about is working on yourself, making yourself worth for them to have, n put in more effort each day for your love, n that’s it! Still, if they don’t value it, fuck them. Don’t shower your precious love on someone who doesn’t deserve it. Choose yourself over the relation then. At last, it’s their choice if they can take care of the pearl that they have been gifted! We must be clear in our heads that we can only control our actions, thoughts, and ways of reacting to situations. Choose wisely, keep beautifully!
What this blog concludes:
- When love chooses us, we should choose to take care of that love.
- Choosing love is brave; staying in it is braver!
- We can keep choosing and replacing things all our lives, but the same can’t be done with people and relations.
- If you are in it for a reason of true love, you will go all the way. N If you can’t go all the way, don’t even start.
- Peace is more important than love than happiness and than anything else
- It’s okay to be wrong, but it’s never okay to stay wrong.
- Love never stays in its original form.
- Choose love, choose life, choose peace, choose yourself!
- You can’t live with a feeling of insecurity all your life!! Read that again!
- Don’t shower your precious love on someone who doesn’t deserve it.
