Every relationship has its highs and lows! The lows are equally crucial as your highs are!! There will be times when your highs will make you doubt if it’s for real. Why is it so perfect? So here your lows come into the picture, giving you the reality checks of your life, relation, partner, and, most importantly, yourself!! In fact, in my understanding learning from the mistakes, resolving things together, getting over the issues, forgiving each other, and giving yourself another chance are the true highs of life! As there is a saying that we don’t meet people accidentally, they are meant to cross our path for a reason!! So never doubt what you have, only because you are experiencing your highs or lows! Life is never meant to be straight and smooth; it is designed to be full of twists and turns. So does a relationship. A straight line never represents growth; it has to be shaky and bumpy!! It’s a part of learning, getting stronger, knowing more, understanding deeper and having a different perception. You have to trust the process. Because remember, love is not a stage you have to reach; It’s a process! Trust your journey!!! The highs and lows surely make it stronger than before with its lesson and learnings.

People can experience the highs and lows being too extreme and repetitive in some relationships; such behaviour leads to toxicity. In such cases, there is surely a need to rethink the problem. Because such scenarios indicate a red flag of being in a toxic relationship or becoming harmful to each other, one must be open to communication to avoid these scenarios. If you are bothered about something, you should discuss it with your partner because nothing can be fixed if it’s unknown. You should know which flags indicate the toxicity and not the lows in your relationship. Silent treatments, keeping things to yourself, unpredictable and constant changes in the mood and behaviour, belittling in conversations or actions, actions which are dangerous to you or themselves, being constantly afraid about your actions around them, trying to be dominated all the time, constantly chasing highs, etc. 

It’s very surprising, but when you constantly chase highs in a relationship. It shows that you don’t have anything to hold onto with that person; you won’t be likely to be around them in normal circumstances. Because it’s the good times that you choose and not that person!!! When you are truly in love with someone, you don’t feel like running away from that situation or the relationship where things are hitting the lows. Because these are the times when you have to hold on to each other and love each other even more and get through it stronger, it shows how much you want them in your life. Then something extraordinary binds you two together even in your lows. It doesn’t work like you show your love once, and you are done. You have to love every day, as they say, through thick and thin! 

Do you know what’s the worst case of being in love is? When you are making someone beg for your love! When you make them dependent, you like to have control over them all the time. Love truly means helping them be independent, setting them free, loving them in a way that they feel good about being in it. Sometimes, highs and lows depending on many factors involved in the initial attraction phase. If it was just physical, intellectual, habitual, financial, entirely emotional, etc. because people can also be impressed by a person’s negatives. Later on, they realize that the attraction was only for the time being? The more highs there are, the lows will come in later. Highs are always exhausted first. In the beginning, you always ignore the lows, knowingly or unknowingly. Your attention is on the delights of the relationship; once the list of highs is exhausted, nothing will keep you interested for a longer run. Because now you start paying attention to the lows. Lows were always there, but we chose to ignore them initially. It’s all about what we pay attention to and how we look at it.  

Now coming on a more practical front, there are three things: your mood, second is your partner’s mood, and third is, the mood of the relationship. All three are different; let’s say my mood is bad today, but depending on how much influence the relationship has on me, my mood will change. So it depends on you whether you can draw the positivity out of these three elements or the negativity. Now, what do we do as a couple? Are we going to pay attention to the lows or the highs? Getting out of it is even more important. Does it also depend on what do you enjoy? Because some people have a terrible habit of bringing problems to solutions. Such creatures exist too! Phew..! Some people always like and want to discuss the lows, find something wrong, be sad over everything in all the situations, and find something gloomy about it. Such an attitude will definitely screw the relationship over a very short span itself.

 At last, there are lessons at the lows, there are realizations at the highs, and there are always corrections to be made! So, never stay where you are for longer; keep moving! Go through it all and still keep moving! High and lows are the true essence of living!