Love itself is not a special feeling to have. The person you are in love with, the things you do when you are in love, the positive thoughts you produce in your mind, and the efforts you put in make it all special!! Being hard on ourselves will only make us hard to love ourselves or others. You need to accept and love yourself first in order to love someone else! You should learn to enjoy your own company first before trying to make others enjoy your company. Keeping your thoughts to yourself, stopping yourself from having different experiences, and putting all kinds of restrictions on yourself makes you a complex person. When we talk about efforts, we can’t miss putting effort into ourselves, working on ourselves first. Eventually, it will help you & your relationships in life. Because putting effort into yourself makes you an easy-going person, you emit calm & positive energy. You have to be intentional about your actions.

Our Words have the power to impact others as well as Us! Sometimes the silliest things that we say to ourselves, like calling ourselves a superhero, a warrior, or a star; give us the confidence to be one, even if you don’t have it in you right now. It indeed makes you someone who strives to be that person! Also, it is important to keep in mind that our partner does not necessarily will always come with those superpowers or the super desired traits for us to call them by those names. And we can still call them our heroes, stars, saviours, and warriors! It will give them the confidence to aspire to those qualities! It helps them to be that person, a person that you always wanted to be with! Recently I was watching an episode from Sherlock Holmes, where Dr Watson realizes that his wife always looked at him as the person she wanted to be with. But sadly, he realizes it when she is no more.

If you don’t feel ready for the relationship, stop yourself from jumping into it. The right time will be when you are prepared to put in the effort for it. When in love, be ready to go all the way. Sometimes, the effort you need in your relationship to sustain is the effort to show that you still have what you always had for them. But the point is sometimes showing it also requires effort! Haha!

It’s not always destiny; sometimes it’s about the efforts you put in and your intentions behind those efforts which land you where you exactly deserve to be. When you are putting effort into something or someone, it will include sacrifices in various forms, like sacrificing your time, sleep, choices, money, etc. Sacrifice is something that is not just physical; it is highly mental and psychological. There are different levels of sacrifices and everyone has their way of classifying it according to their personality type. Some people are less sacrificing. In their nature, they are not much of a giver, so they keep count of every little bit or the tiniest sacrifices they make for others. While some people are highly sacrificing in their nature, they do not keep count of the things they do for others, at least consciously they don’t!! They keep doing it for the sake of love and kindness. But here is the problem that arises. When we have such kinds of people in our life, we start taking them for granted after a while. We don’t look at those things as a sacrifice, but we start believing that they are bound to do so! Nothing stays when we take it for granted, absolutely nothing! Even this kind of person will get tired of doing it after a point. Have you ever heard of people who do intense workouts, training, and practices? They usually start counting the reps once their body gets tired, after the average number of sets. For example, if they can do 30pushups, they will begin to count after those 30. So, with this category of people, the sacrifices are the same. Initially, they do it without keeping any count, but once they or their sacrifices are taken for granted, they start counting too! Because that grant is the limit of their capability.

So, don’t count only your efforts but of the other people too! Let there be love flowing all around us, let the efforts make us all tired & sleep peacefully just as we sleep after a productive day. Let us respect each & every one. Let’s count all our blessings! Let’s be thankful! Let’s be compassionate! Let’s be warm! Let’s be KIND!!! Don’t make love and compassion a luxury; it is a necessity!