Reality
People like to live in fairy tales since ever….! They expect the relationship to go smooth and perfect!! If they experience little up and downs, little stress, little worries, insecurities, or little sadness, they prefer jumping to the conclusion that they don’t deserve this rather than trying to communicate about it. They think it has to be perfect, and when they find out that things are not perfect, they try to get out of that relationship. N, it keeps repeating. They never find a perfect person or a perfect relation all their life. Because such people or such relationships don’t exist!! It’s our efforts and understanding which make it perfect! Then they say that TRUE LOVE NEVER EXISTS. If you believe in something, it exists for you; if you don’t, it doesn’t! N that’s the reality. Pay attention to the truth.
Most of the time, there is a difference between what exists in your mind and what is actually happening to your life! What’s there in your mind is not necessarily the reality! It’s always better to be in touch with reality rather than getting lost in your own parallel universe all the time. I mean, it’s okay if you visit your parallel universe sometimes, as we all get tier of the reality that we live in. But staying there for long is dangerous! If your mind is full of negative thoughts, your life will attract the things which were not even meant for you! Also, if your mind is full of dreamy positives, it is dangerous too! You will only be dreaming about something that does not exist in reality. Even if it exists, You are not doing anything about it to make it valid. Either way, it’s harmful. Continuation of this may wreck your life. Accepting the harsh reality and being in touch with it will keep you open to the possibilities of changing the fact by doing something about it. N if you think that what if I make myself disconnect from reality. In that case, my friend, It won’t change anything about the situation. Forget about this idea helping you; it will only take you far away from believing in the idea of changing it.
Disconnecting yourself from reality can only make you powerless! Staying real about yourself, about your shit, and being acceptive about it, keeps a lot of clutter away from your life. If you keep your shit real, then you won’t have to make excuses for the things you do; you won’t have to hold the mask all the time, which suffocates. You won’t have to explain to anyone why you did, what you did, as you have been staying real from day one. In this scenario, you have kept them open to the idea of accepting or denying it. So staying real in the relationship is of great consequence. It’s better if you are connected with reality. Don’t try to find the problems that do not even exist in your relationship! When you ignore the truth of your relationship, any of the following things can happen to you.
- You start judging your partner based on your past bad experiences, which ruins your current relationship.
- You ignore the positives of your relationship and start blaming. You make yourself far away from positivity, love, and affection.
- You might end up in a toxic relationship based on your false dreamy positives, ignoring the harsh reality and facts. In that case, you still are in great danger.
- Even if you are in a healthy relationship but in your head, things are different. All you have are doubts, insecurities, and bad past experiences that you are carrying with you, ignoring the beautiful reality. You are at a great loss, my friend!
- Ignoring reality keeps you trapped in your own maze of thoughts.
- You start expecting others’ reactions according to your own thought process. The other person is unknown of your parallel universe or the maze of thoughts that you have created in your head. When their reactions differ from what you expected, it will disturb you!
- You get impractical, as your mind is not trained to accept the reality anymore!
- You either end up taking them for granted or let them take you for granted.
- Reality scares you as you get habitual to your own parallel universe.
- You will fail to express yourself, as your maze of thought is unknown to others!
So, understanding your life’s reality, your relationship’s reality, your reality is quite essential! It helps in keeping the clutter away!
What this blog concludes:
- Nobody is perfect; hence no relationship is perfect.
- Mutual understanding and efforts make a relationship last.
- You will end up being alone if you wait for the ideal person to come into your life.
- If you believe in something, it exists. If you don’t believe it, it doesn’t.
- Most of the time, there is a difference between what exists in your mind and what is actually happening to your life!
- Even if the reality sucks, it is better to be in touch with it.
- Disconnecting yourself from reality will make you powerless.
- Your constant thoughts have the power to attract the same thing in your life.
- Stay honest to yourself first, later to others.
- Keep it simple, keep it real!